Today’s khutbah was given at Masjid As-Salaam in Detroit.
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Need to address domestic violence & sexual harassment in the American Muslim community
This upcoming Friday in my sermon, I plan on discussing the issue of violence against women. Moreover, I also plan to discuss the matter of sexual harassment, which in itself is a form of violence that can not only be physical but also psychological. As this issue is an international phenomenon that transcends borders, which includes differences in ethnicity and religion, I wish to address this issue within the American Muslim context.
We must be clear that physical violence against women outside of non-combatant situations or out of necessity of self-defense is strictly forbidden in Al-Islam. A general rule in Al-Islam provided in a strong narration in Sunan ibn Majah is that Prophet Muhammad (prayers & peace be upon him and his family) said, “There is no harm nor reciprocating harm.” This rule transcends gender and age. Aggression which causes physical and/or psychological injury to others is prohibited. This instruction is in fact a spiritual guidepost, which we are to strive towards.
Moreover, Al-Islam is built upon the principle of mercy. Our mere existence is a manifestation of Divine mercy. Allah (Mighty & Sublime) describes Himself primarily to us in Al-Qur’an through His names of Ar-Rahman (The Merciful Benefactor) and Ar-Rahim (The Merciful Redeemer). He (Mighty & Sublime) said in Surah Al-‘Araf, ayah 156, “My mercy has been extended upon everything.” It is narrated that Jesus (peace be upon him) stated, “Blessed are those who are merciful to others for the sake of Allah.” Prophet Muhammad (prayers & peace be upon him and his family) further elaborated according to a sound narration through Al-Bukhari, Abu Dawud, At-Tirmidhi and Ahmad that “Whoever is not merciful will not receive mercy.” Again, mercy for others is a spiritual condition in Al-Islam, not an option.
Beginning with family relations, domestic violence runs counter to the Qur’anic ethos. In Surah Ar-Rum, ayah 21, Allah (Mighty & Sublime) clearly states “And from His signs, He created from yourselves spouses that you may dwell in tranquility, and He made between you love and mercy. Surely these are signs for those who contemplate deeply.” Thus, the family life between husband, wife and children is defined to be a relationship, which projects peace, affection and protection. Linguistically, the word for mercy (rahmah) has a relationship to the word womb, a womb being a place of nurturing, warmth and protection from external factors. The best expression, which we can model our behavior in this matter, as in all matters, relates to how the Prophet (prayers & peace be upon him and his family) interacted with his wives.
Allah (Mighty & Sublime) revealed in Surah An-Nisaa, ayah 19, “And consort with them [your wives] in a good, kind manner.” The Prophet (prayers & peace be upon him and his family) dealt with his spouses in a gentle manner both in ease and difficult times. Even in moments when he corrected them, he never abuses them physically nor verbally. A’ishah said according to a sound narration in Al-Bukhari and Muslim, “He [the Prophet] absolutely never hit anything with his hand, not a woman nor a servant, but that he only struck [anyone] in the path of Allah [during a time of war].”
I’ve never heard a complaint about a Muslim brute, who beats his wife or fiancée trying to justify his abuse by the behavior of the Prophet (prayers & peace be upon him and his family). Those who beat their wives normally do so out of the desire to subjugate their wives or out of anger. The one who does such violence is merely displaying their psychological and spiritual weakness. It is not a sign that he loves his wife as some abused women misinterpret his actions. For the small percentage who misuse a particular ayah in Al-Qur’an to justify their wife-beating, they lack sound knowledge and have not followed the logic of Al-Qur’an to its logical conclusion.
Allah (Mighty & Sublime) in Surah An-Nisaa, ayah 34 says:
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more strength than the other and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty and ill-conduct admonish them (first) (next) refuse to share their beds (and last) strike beat them lightly; but if they return to obedience seek not against them means (of annoyance): for Allah is Most High Great.
Tafsir ibn Kathir narrates an incident in which a man from the Helpers beat his wife including marking her face in which the Prophet stated that “It is not for him to do that!” Given that the Prophet (prayers & peace be upon him and his family) never hit his wives, the ayah above cannot be taken that a man has been given the right to beat up his wife or whip her with a belt.
Majority of scholars of Al-Qur’an state that “strike them lightly” refers to tapping on the hand with a piece of siwak, which cannot even leave a red mark on a person with the palest of skin. A person can pluck another using their finger and leave a red mark. Though this may sound condescending, “strike them lightly” in light of this interpretation means to strike as a mere means of getting attention without causing any physical pain, in essence treating a recalcitrant wife who disrespects her husband as if he was reprimanding a child.
In no way do the implications of this ayah mean that a wife has to take nonsense and disrespect from a man. She has the right to complain to him and to also tell him when he is out of order also.
Relating to sexual harassment at the work place in particular, a man has no right to make lewd advances towards a woman and definitely does not have the right to places his hands on her. This is a problem in some spaces in which men have positional power over women, meaning when men are supervisors over women. Propositioning a woman to commit fornication or other sexual acts with the implications that she’ll keep her job, to be able to travel to specific conferences domestically or abroad, to be accepted for a fellowship and/or to advance her career is unlawful and illegal according to American law.
Matters such as this happen, to single Muslim women in particular, in which women stay silent out of fear that they will get a bad reputation, be blamed for the harassment or fear of being fired. Whether a woman wears jilbab and hijab or wears skirts and no headscarf is inconsequential. Even if a woman is naked, as I’ve witnessed in Mali of women taking baths in the Niger River at dawn because they have no running water, that circumstance does not give a man the right to attempt to touch a woman. Again, even if a woman is nude gives a man absolutely no right to touch her in anyway. We must have zero tolerance for blaming victims when they are sexually harassed as sometimes men blame women for being raped because they are not dressed “appropriately.”
I encourage fellow preachers of Islam to address these issue. Those of us with male privilege in the Muslim community have the primary duty to curb domestic violence and abuse that is perpetrated upon Muslim women. It should not be the primary responsibility of women to fend off the brutes among us alone.
Sermon against domestic violence & vigilantism
Today’s khutbah was given at the Islamic Organization of North America masjid in Warren, MI.
Walid gives sermon about domestic violence
Today’s sermon that was given at the Islamic Center of Greater Lansing pertained to the irreligious path of domestic violence, which is not condoned in Islam nor in other faiths.
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American Muslims Call For Swift Action Against Domestic Violence
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Feb. 18, 2009
Media contact: Wajahat Ali, 510-909-7506, wajahatmali@hotmail.com
American Muslims Call for Swift Action Against Domestic Violence
Murder of Buffalo resident Aasiya Zubair spurs American Muslims to forcefully address domestic abuse and violence against women; call on imams to address DV in Friday sermons
SAN FRANCISCO – A coalition of Muslim organizations, journalists, community leaders, imams, and other concerned citizens are calling for immediate action by American Muslim leaders and religious figures to address domestic abuse and violence in America, including that found in the American Muslim community, on Friday, February 20, 2009.
In response to the collective concern of the American Muslim community, imams and religious leaders across America have been asked to speak out against domestic violence to their congregations. They are asked to remind congregants of the Prophet Muhammad’s abhorrence of harshness, abuse and violence, and emphasize solutions that strengthen families and ensure all members are treated with fairness and respect, free of fear of abuse or violence.
Members of the coalition are contacting imams and religious leaders in major Islamic centers and mosques. They are encouraging sermons addressing domestic violence and are offering resources available through the Peaceful Families Project, a Muslim-run domestic violence prevention organization founded in 2000, to help educate the American Muslim community. This education addresses the extent to which domestic violence exists and strategies to stop it.
Several prominent imams have heeded the call to action by concerned American Muslims including Shaykh Hamza Yusuf of the Zaytuna Institute in Berkeley, Ca. and Imam Tahir Anwar of the South Bay Islamic Association in San Jose, Ca. These imams have committed their Friday sermons to addressing domestic violence and preaching that in the Islamic tradition and by the example of the Prophet Muhammad, family harmony can never be achieved by force and that emotional and physical abuse is never acceptable.
This call is being broadcast through various channels, including blogs, Facebook groups, personal contacts, and news media. “The outcry among Muslim Americans against this type of violence is a heartfelt one,” said Shahed Amanullah, editor-in-chief of the online newsmagazine altmuslim.com. “It is essential that we address the problem and take steps to ensure that no one else faces the same tragic fate as Ms. Zubair.”
Specific calls to action for imams and religious leaders include:
1. Unequivocally denounce domestic violence and any attitudes that enable or excuse it
2. Remind Muslims that the Prophet Muhammad condemned with unequivocal language all forms of spousal abuse.
3. Immediately create community social service committees made up of qualified social service providers to supply educational resources and staff institutional programs that support abused and battered women.
4. Promote educational and awareness programs that outline abusive and violent behaviors.
5. Allow community members ways of pointing out and preventing the emergence or escalation of possibly abusive relationships and environments
Individuals and organizations helping to organize this call (partial list, titles for identification purposes only):
* Salma Abugideri, Peaceful Families Project
* Wajahat Ali, Playwright, Attorney and Journalist, domesticcrusaders.com
* Shahed Amanullah, editor-in-chief of the online newsmagazine altmuslim.com
* Zeba Iqbal, Council for the Advancement of Muslim Professionals
* Ruby Khan, Director, Hamdard Center for Health and Human Services
* Dr. Aminah McCloud, Professor of Islamic Studies, DePaul University
* Hussein Rashid, Visiting Professor, Hofstra University, husseinrashid.com
Mosques, imams, and organizations confirmed to have joined this effort (partial list):
* Arab American Association of New York (New York, NY)
* Arab Muslim American Federation (New York, New York)
* Council of the Islamic Organizations of Greater Chicago – Imam Abdul Malik Muhajid
* Islamic Society of San Francisco – Imam Khalid Siddiqui
* Islamic House of Wisdom (Dearborn, MI) – Imam Mohammad Elahi
* Islamic Center of Greater Lansing (Detroit, MI) – Imam Dawud Walid
* South Bay Islamic Association (San Jose, CA) – Imam Tahir Anwar
* The Islamic Center at New York University – Haroon Moghul
* Zaytuna Institute (Berkeley, CA) – Shaykh Hamza Yusuf
Resources for the media regarding Muslim efforts to confront domestic violence:
* ACCESS (Michigan): http://www.accesscommunity.org
* Apna Ghar (Chicago): http://www.apnaghar.org
* Central Texas Muslimaat (Austin, Texas): http://www.ctmaustin.org
* Domestic Violence Resources for Muslims: http://www.crescentlife.com/psychissues/domestic_violence.htm
* Facebook Call to Action: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=54807221754
* Hamdard Center for Health and Human Services (Chicago): http://www.hamdardcenter.org
* Manavi (New York, NY): http://www.manavi.org
* Muslims For Progressive Values (Los Angeles): http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/mpv-dv
* Narika (San Francisco): http://www.narika.org
* North American Islamic Shelter for the Abused (San Francisco): http://www.ask-nisa.org
* Peaceful Families Project: http://www.peacefulfamilies.org
* Sakhi (New York, NY): http://www.sakhi.org
* SEMAH (San Francisco): http://www.semah.org
* Tahirih Justice Center (Falls Church, Va..): http://www.tahirih.org
* Turning Point for Women and Families (New York, NY): http://www.turningpoint-ny.org
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